First time poster

Well, this is my first time posting a blog on this website. I have a few friends who do this, and I truly enjoy reading about what is going on in their lives at that moment. I was a member of a certain village, but I haven't been on for a while and now I can't seem to figure out how to get to my blogs so here I start anew. I am a SAHM of 3 children. I have been married for 13 years. And we have recently added another dog to our lovely family so that brings us to myself, my husband, two daughters, one son, two dogs, and a goldfish. Boy, my house seems so small all of a sudden!

Please don't let my title "Not Just Mommy" fool you. Lately, I have felt like just a Mommy and nothing else. Don't get me wrong, I love my children and would try my best to move heaven and earth for them. HOWEVER.... there are times. When I quit my job, I didn't quit realize that I would be trading in my "worker bee" identity for a larger version of "mommy bee" identity. When my husband quit his job to start his own business, I never thought of him as just a "lawn guy", and I guess he never let himself be that either. That is my issue. He was able to maintain his friends who call him to play cards. He continued to play softball and fish. He really didn't lose anything during that transition. Myself, on the other hand, was not so lucky. I have friends who love me and will be there in a minute if need be, but we aren't the kind of friends who put together a poker game at the last minute. We are planners and organizers. We try to arrange a girls night weeks ahead of time and it always seems to fall apart at the last minute. Why is that???? Why is it that I feel slightly guilty if I want to go somewhere without my kids for awhile???? And why is it that when I tell my husband that we need a date night just the two of us, we end up at a restaurant with the kids in tow???? Maybe if I can figure out why I am made this way, I can figure out a way to fix it and regain a lost part of my identity.... the part that is not just mommy.

Until next time......